Some mistakes were made..

Well let me preface this article by saying that even though I take full responsible for my mistake, it still was a mistake and a honest one.

My greed and somewhat laziness and ignorance amounted in what happend.

So what did happen?

A couple days ago I messaged someone on TikTok for help with finding a decent translation of a novel. I recently watched the show absolutely loved it and learned later on it was based of a novel. So I really wanted to read it. Been looking myself but ended up with several very badly done translations. So I thought I reach out and ask someone who appeared had a decent translation of this wonderful story.

I however fucked up with opening my message with “hi girl”. I watched some videos of this person whenever they would pop up on my fyp and that was it. I wasn’t a follower but the videos I saw popping up a lot cause this person is very active online.

Since I had no prior interactions, or did anything to get to know the person behind the profile and also neglected to decently check out the profile including bio, and enhance the profile pic I totally missed the obvious pronouns he/him.

I am not saying this to take the blame from me or dodge responsibility I am not. I am responsible, but it was a mistake, a mistake made cause I am human, and my greed overtook me (wanting the novel) so that was my sole focus.

When they confronted me harshly immediately after I tried to explain myself and apologize, but I was already blocked.

I felt aweful. This shows that ignorance can still happen. Even though I am a ally of the community. You should never assume someone’s pronouns based on a couple visuals you have seen.

To be human is to make mistakes and learn from them, grow from them and don’t repeat same behavior. I won’t.

I wish I could explained myself, not to shift blame but to acknowledge that my opening line caused pain.

Since I wasn’t able to do that I talked to ChatGPT and I will show you what has been said.

So what now?

I already learned. And since I feel everything so deeply this is no exception. It has been a while since I made such a grave error in presenting myself that it shocked me to my core. I am really disappointed in myself. That I think shows since it has been days after the fact and I still can’t seem to let it go.

But as my article picture says, to make mistakes is to be human. Even though I meant no harm, I did cause it. All I can do is own my error and not ever repeat it again. This I can vow.

And no matter how bad I feel, I can’t help but think about them and how they must feel. Foolish mistakes can cause deep cuts, meant to or not. I am truly sorry of my part in this, I will never assume anything based on appearance again, and take my time to check profiles properly and when not sure keep it gender neutral.

Something I should have done to begin with.